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I Achieved the American Dream — and It Was Awful
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28 Mar ’15 - 8:48 am
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I think a lot of people can relate over the last several years

The year was 2008. I was 25, pregnant with twins, and very much in love. And we had just hit the quintessential American rite of passage: We bought our first home.

The large, open floor plan beckoned us. Before the ink was dry, we’d bought a lawnmower, buckets of paint, and some new appliances. We were all in. We wanted to get as much done as we could before the babies came.

A month later, my husband brought home a pink slip and the housing market died a fiery death — both results of the economic crash.

Overnight, instead of a homeowner’s blissful daydream, the house became a nightmare we couldn’t afford. We’d purchased the house for $240,000. Just weeks later, it was worth less than $150,000. Our mortgage stood at $1,200 a month, plus utilities, taxes, insurance, and everything that goes with the American Dream.

And before we could even process all this (and figure out how to move forward on my meager $40,000 salary), the twins came early. We found ourselves trapped in a hospital for 10 days while my tiny babies struggled to live and get bigger. In just two months, we’d gone from two people on the brink of traditional adult life to four people unable to afford the most basic necessities.

We struggled to feed our children and make ends meet, delving into our savings to cover the mortgage and other bills until that was totally depleted. Then we moved on to the life-saving state and federal programs available to people who have fallen on hard times.

And then things got worse. Our beautiful new-to-us home in Connecticut, built in 1987, needed more than updated cabinets. We found out the hard way.

One freezing day in late October, when my babies were just two months old, our furnace broke. No warning. It just stopped. Nothing cements the fear of poverty and the shame of helplessness like looking at your two newborn children swaddled in six layers crying in the cold of your home.

More here https://www.dailyworth.com/posts/3430-buying-my-first-house-impoverished-my-family

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Sad part is, this story is actually pretty commonplace. The system is broken, but the folks in place to help begin fixing it refuse to make the hard decisions because it's going to hurt to take the band-aid off. So the solution is put yet another band-aid over the infected wound.

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pretty much

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That is so coming. It is why I have chosen to live as much as possible outside of the system. Although I have a pretty hefty mortgage, my land has more value than the mortgage. It is not falsified value in a house. 

I have no debt other than my mortgage.

I stay self employed. I can always make a living without depending on someone else providing a paycheck.

Do I struggle? Yes. Is it hard? Yes. 

But, even though I was mostly out of work this winter, Due to an accident, I got by, I still have my home.

things will not change until there is a shift in the paradigm of how we function as a society.

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I think it's coming, the tiny home movement has been growing over the last several years and from what I am seeing it is coming mainly from the younger generation.

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KVR said
I think it's coming, the tiny home movement has been growing over the last several years and from what I am seeing it is coming mainly from the younger generation.

About the most positive I can say about the 'tiny house' movement is that it just MIGHT serve as a return to the older, sensible house 'progression' that people used to follow.

First house was usually a 'fixer-upper', small - probably 1 or 2 bedrooms, 1 bath and around 800 sq. ft. or less. So-so neighborhood, but livable and place to BUILD equity.

Second house bought when equity from first house and savings allowed. Probably a more children's needs oriented house in school/family type neighborhood.

Third house a bit larger for family teens to 'have own space' - family room for them, living room for mom to keep 'nice' for company.

Next house(s) are for parents who if smart, sell the family house and buy a 2 bedroom 'beauty' just for themselves Wink! Sadly too much Hollyweird imagery has misshaped 'The American Dream' into a unrealistic and DRAINING debt trap resulting in wage slavery for a never ending '30 year mortgage' (which gets renewed for another 30 years each house purchase).

My personal motto - The Home, a peace worth fighting for.

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they sure did pick the right word, death pledge

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